NO DANCING!

That's the rule!  They told us that when we were kids in church in the South.  Good grief.

Rules have been the source of cultural distress for thousands of years, of course.  Who gets to rule, and what rules are imposed on us regular folks. 

There are good rules, we all agree. No killing, no stealing, don't lie, don't hurt other people. The reasonable next steps are things like respect your parents and take care of them when they're old. Heal the sick, feed the hungry, make a place for everyone. Love others like you love yourself.

Then there are the odd rules that persist and make little sense.  Honor killings, kidnapping students, forbidding girls to study in school, bikinis and burkas, insisting that porn is the same as free speech, and ... no dancing. Someone thought that was a good idea, I suppose.

A broadly understood concept, commonly shared
among religions and philosophies ...

While the rule of law is indeed a recognized necessity, no one suggests that it addresses the root of the problem.  It's the individual heart, right?

A good heart rules well, especially if it is refined over years by good counsel and experience.

Law has been shown to define the boundary against which we press, struggling for the best advantage, looking for the loophole.  A good heart, on the other hand, is pushing in the opposite direction, struggling to do right, looking for the opportunity to serve well.

It's funny ... funny strange, not humorous ... how little time we spend pursuing the goal of a good heart.  Little is said of it in the public arena, and perhaps little in our daily conversations as well.  In the business world, it's a little odd or even uncomfortable when 'doing the right thing' comes up in a meeting.  Why is that, I wonder.  In today's world where it seems that those who have the gold make the rules, is there a good path, a better way that an individual can follow?

Zombie Prejudice

'Canada will never be a safe haven for zombies,' according to Foreign Minister John Baird. 

During parliamentary discussions on crisis response, Canada's Foreign Affairs Minister John Baird stood up and, with a straight face, assured the nation that zombies would not be welcome in Canada should the U.S. devolve into a zombie wasteland. "I want to assure this member and all Canadians that I am dedicated to ensuring this never happens. I want to say categorically to this member, and through him to all Canadians, that under the leadership of this Prime Minister, Canada will never become a safe haven for zombies.  Ever." The room burst into applause.

We all laughed, of course.  It was a joke.

Interestingly, similar thinking has been popular in the past, and it wasn't humorous. Depending on who and where you are, your history includes a vicious unwillingness to make a place for Africans or Jews or local natives or members of some other class than your own.

The Irish weren't welcome in America in the 19th century; the prejudice against them was old by then, though.  In the 12th century, the Irish resistance to invasion and domination gives us our first look at their "barbarous nation" with "filthy practices".  The Gaelic Irish lived under the weight of such characterizations for centuries, and in some regions they still do even now, in the 21st century.

Black Africans, Asians, Latinos, Catholics, Protestants, Muslims, and Jews; the list of those unfairly judged is long and persists in cultural thinking.

None of us are free of prejudice.  We're generally unaware of its extent in us.

... according to social science and psychology.  Do the research yourself if you're curious.

It's deeply pervasive.  Beyond the obvious prejudice about race or skin color, we find similar discrimination against people on the basis of body type, employment area, education, dialect, gender, tribe, hair style, religion, and their social class, wealth, and home size.  Every culture has their own version of these or others.  Destructive, in every case; from anorexia to ... zombies?

Prejudice - defined

A hostile opinion about some person or class of persons; prejudice is socially learned and commonly grounded in misconception, misunderstanding, and inflexible generalizations.  

Most often rooted in personal fear or insecurity, we perhaps fear loss of what we have or how we live.  It's as though we fear a dilution of the 'good' we deserve if these new players join.  Prejudice feeds on our perceived need to be better or superior in some way.

There is a way out, of course; and toward what we hope for in ourselves ... clear thinking, compassion, kindness, graciousness to others, and patience.

Both our culture and we ourselves can change. Though neither quick nor simple in either case, such cannot be ignored by a good conscience.  True?

Some resources ... here and here and here.  I couldn't find anything to help with the zombie problem, though.

Life in Memories

“People wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, all life for happiness.”

Life is surprisingly empty if not accompanied by moments worth remembering.  It might not be uncommon for a day or a month to pass in a blur, just marking time.  Can we choose otherwise?

Friends near and far, they shape our understanding,
our purpose, our view of life, of ourselves,
and the world.

Memories are made in brief moments or perhaps in a long struggle.  Joy or horror, memories are where we look back and see our self and others, the things that mattered, maybe the purpose for which we've lived.  Our happiness is in there.


Magnificent moments and the best of memories arise from doing well, do they not? And they often include people about whom we care deeply.

Our family, and particularly our children exemplify our hope to do well by others.  And our grandchildren.  Them, especially.

In that circle and beyond, a life invested in serving for the benefit of others appears to provide the deepest and most meaningful bedrock of happiness.  Not surprisingly, social science and psychology studies suggest a life focused on self, wealth, and pleasure is the least likely to satisfy more than fleetingly.  

Do the research yourself, if you're curious. Here's a good place to start.  It's a quick summary of 40 years of research.

Despite free will, we have few choices.  We have no choice at all about where or when we were born, how we were raised or the things we experienced along the way.  We have little choice about the culture or the economy in which we live.  That which we can choose is perhaps limited to how, and to what end, we serve.  True?  

If you didn't stop to see the video, you should.  It's useful understanding about what to do next.

Not Mentioned in History Class - Pt. I

The Nazi campaign against the Jews was a German idea, true?  Not exactly.

In the decades before the holocaust, distrust of Jews and attacks against them increased ... in America and elsewhere in the world.

The International Jew is a four volume set of booklets published and distributed in the early 1920s by Henry Ford, the American industrialist and automobile manufacturer.

In 1920, Ford had his personal newspaper The Dearborn Independent report on what he considered to be the "Jewish menace". Every week for 91 issues, the paper published some supposedly Jewish-inspired evil in a headline. The most popular and aggressive stories were reprinted in four volumes called The International Jew.  

The first volume of the series is titled The International Jew, The World's Foremost Problem.  Hitler had a copy in his personal library. 

At a ceremony in Dearborn, Michigan, Henry Ford was presented with the Grand Cross of the Supreme Order of the German Eagle, an honor created in 1937 by Adolf Hitler. This high honor represented Adolf Hitler’s personal admiration and indebtedness to Henry Ford. 

After the war at the Nuremberg Trials, Nazi youth leader Baldur von Schirach tells how The International Jew had made a deep impression on him and his friends in their youth and influenced them in becoming antisemitic. He said: "... we saw in Henry Ford the representative of success, also the exponent of a progressive social policy. In the poverty-stricken and wretched Germany of the time, youth looked toward America, and apart from the great benefactor, Herbert Hoover, it was Henry Ford who to us represented America." 

Marianne Clemens in her Hitler Youth
uniform; she was automatically enrolled
in the Hitler Youth at the age of 10, and
drafted to work in munitions factories at
age 16.  She was told that concentration
camps were just prisons, and had no idea
of the truth. "We heard nothing from
the outside." Marianne says her eyes
were opened when the allied forces
arrived. "The Americans showed it
on their newsreels... and then we
saw … it was unbelievable."

Disappointing. The problem of prejudice is more broadly evident than in just one fanatical leader.  Wrong thinking, quickly stuffing others into a category, grouping all of them together and attributing the worst of traits and motives to all of them.

Among the surviving victims of such wickedness are those who were led down the pathway.  A moment's reflection unveils the horror of the Hitler Youth, the Hitlerjugend, the youth organization of the Nazi party in Germany.  

Beginning in Munich in 1922, children were recruited and taught the Nazi ideology. They were told it was true, right, and noble in every way. As young children are wont to do, they believed it all.  They didn't know.

Membership was compulsory nationwide after 1936, even if parents objected.  Parents were told their children would be taken away if they weren't allowed to join.  There were 8,000,000 members by 1940, perhaps 80-90% of the nation's youth. There were a few who privately disagreed with the Nazi ideology; some even managed to resist.  

Hitler Youth - precious
children, they didn't
understand what had
been done to them.

For those responsible, it would be better for them to have a millstone tied to their neck and be dropped overboard than to lead a little one astray.  They were just children.

So then, Henry Ford and antisemitism in America were at least part of the problem, and the 8,000,000+ Hitler Youth were among the victims. I doubt we will hear much about such things in our history classes.

Ford, a great man in so many ways, is reported to have been shown newsreel footage of the Nazi concentration camps; when he "was confronted with the atrocities which finally and unanswerably laid bare the bestiality of the prejudice to which he contributed, he collapsed with a stroke – his last and most serious."*

(Such shallow thinking as Henry Ford's view of Jews continues to be seen among us today.  Whether we're pointing out a political party, a philosophical ideology, or some subcultural group, we tend to dismiss all of  'them' as immoral and destructively motivated.  It is stunningly rare today to hear anyone suggest that those who disagree with them have any thoughtful rationale for doing so.)

     ____________________

... and Herbert Hoover was their great benefactor?
That will perhaps be our inquiry for Not Mentioned in History Class - Pt. II


*Robert Lacey,  Ford: The Men and the Machines

Child Abuse

Perhaps the greatest challenge every little girl will face ... self-acceptance.
Perhaps the greatest impediment every little girl will face ... the opinion of others.

Abuse by cultural norms, more
common than the sun rising.

In western culture particularly, a woman's hyper-awareness of appearance is imposed on her and persists for a lifetime.  It stems from her earliest years when she was introduced to pretty, cute, style, fashion, and a comparison of herself to others on that scale.

In middle-school and later, she will live in a world where the top percentage of girls, generally based on physical appearance and dress, will receive the most attention, the most encouragement, the most approval, and the best support for their self-image and acceptance.  The farther down the percentage-ladder a girl finds herself, the greater her difficulty in accepting herself, and the greater the likelihood of her struggling to find a place of acceptance in her social surroundings.

Her position on that ladder will tend to shape her entire life along a narrow pathway with only a few exits available through the years. Surprisingly, the cultural shaping adversely affects them all, regardless of their position on the ladder.  Insecurities and coping difficulties are likely to persist throughout their lives.

Young men face a similar battle, but are less encumbered by the same appearance issues.

For today's westernized woman, her natural face is rarely seen in public. Her natural hair is rarely good enough on its own.  She will spend innumerable hours attending to such things as a function of being accepted in her world, equating appearance with worth.

The alternative?

The key piece that appears to make the most difference is a strong, healthy family coupled with education and broad opportunity.  The farther she goes along the path of personal development, built on healthy support by mom and dad and extended family, the healthier her self-image will be.  It gives her the freedom to be a person of substance.  True?

Children have no choice of where they are born.  No choice about the family in which they are raised, the community in which they live, or the things they experience in the early years.

The universally available choices fall to mom and dad; they shape the world in which their children are formed.  A father who loves and enjoys her for the person she is; a mom who does the same and doesn't make a big deal about cutesy fashion or perfect hair ... it's the opportunity of a lifetime, literally.

There are many variables within a culture and more across cultural lines, of course, and all can be significant.  Too, the struggle might become an occasion of strengthening and personal growth.

Curious how your culture thinks?  Google images for 'magnificent women' and  'magnificent men', or just 'man' and 'woman'.