66 Strong things to say to your child

1. I'm grateful for you.
2. You make me proud.
3. Your words are meaningful.
4. You have great ideas.
5. I love being your parent.
6. You don't have to be perfect to be great.
7. Your opinions matter.
8. You are important.
9. You are loved.
10. I believe you.
11. I believe in you.
12. This family wouldn't be the same without you.
13. You are valuable.
14. You can say no.
15. You can say yes.
16. I know you did your best.
17. You were right.
18. I accept who you are.
19. We can try your way.
20. You are helpful.
21. You are worth it.
22. You make me happy.
23. I love your creativity.
24. Being around you is fun.
25. I can't wait to hear about it.
26. Don't be afraid to be you.
27. You're making a difference.
28. I'm excited to spend time with you.
29. You are interesting.
30. I love seeing the world your way.
31. It's good to be curious.
32. I love the way you tell stories.
33. What you did was awesome.
34. I admire you.
35. That's a great question.
36. Your friends are lucky to have you.
37. I trust you.
38. That was a really good choice.
39. Seeing you happy makes me happy.
40. Being your parent is my favorite job.
41. I learn new things from you every day.
42. You make me better.
43. You are a good boy/girl.
44. Thank you for being you.
45. I'm so glad you're here.
46. You look great.
47. I understand you.
48. Watching you grow up is the best.
49. That was really brave.
50. I forgive you.
51. I appreciate you.
52. We all make mistakes.
53. Yes, me too.
54. You are very good at that!
55. You can try again tomorrow.
56. Nobody is perfect.
57. I love how you said that.
58. Not everyone will like you, and that's OK.
59. You did that so well.
60. I'm listening.
61. That's a very fair point.
62. You are beautiful inside and out.
63. I love you.
64. I could never stop loving you.
65. You are enough.
66. You make my heart full.

Worth a regular review, isn't it.
Looking back over the years, we find ourselves thankful for every positive word along the way, every affirmation of right thinking and choosing, every helpful correction, and for loving support through it all.



Thanks and a hat tip to whoever originally authored this list; good stuff.

You can step on the flowers, but you can’t prevent the spring

The Arab Spring, celebrated at the time as a triumph for freedom, is perhaps viewed differently by those in the middle of it today, those who have to live with the change as it continues.  After so many years of oppression, of corruption, of murder and abuse, the public revolution began in desperation but with such hope for better.  From an anonymous Egyptian blog ...

The Muslim Brotherhood's Constitution has passed, thanks to fraud and a sectarian campaign in the hands of the MB Government. The Yes votes are 64%, the No votes are 36% and the voter turnout was 32% of all eligible voters. Out of every 100 Egyptians, 20 have said yes, 12 have said no, and 68 didn’t even bother to go and vote. 

Mohamed was one of those 68% that didn’t vote. He is a government employee by day, and a taxi driver by night, who spends every waking minute of his day trying to provide for his wife, 3 children and sick mother. Mohamed didn’t vote. Mohamed didn’t vote because he didn’t think it mattered, and that no matter what he chooses the outcome will be Yes anyway. Mohamed didn’t vote, because like all of his friends and neighbors, he has become disgusted with the tug of war between the secularists and the Islamists, and how all they care about is power, even if it means pulling the country into a civil war. Mohamed didn’t vote because he knows that neither side cares about him or his family, despite what they always say in their speeches, before and after the revolution. Mohamed didn’t vote because all the hope he had at the beginning of the revolution was gone, replaced with bitterness and anger, and he would rather spend the time scouring the streets of Cairo for a fare that might help him cover his ever increasing expenses. What good is a constitution to a bunch of hungry mouths anyway? 

Mohamed hated the revolution. Mohamed hated that his neighborhood became infested with crime and thugs, and that the whole city soon followed. Mohamed hated the absence of the police unless they wanted a bribe, a practice that has increased after a revolution that claimed that it will stop it. Mohamed hated the state of chaos the country has been in for the past two years, and the hours he wasted in traffic caused by marches and sit ins and clashes that don’t seem to ever stop. Mohamed hated that there are no tourists anymore, and that when he gets a foreign customer it’s usually a Syrian refugee who hassles him over the fare, unlike the days when the Americans and the Gulfie tourists used to populate the city and pay him generously for taking them around. Mohamed hated that they were gone, and has lost hope that they will ever come back.  Mohamed barely meets his expenses, and has no idea how he survived those past two years. He panicked when he heard that the prices of goods were going up, only to relax hours later when he was informed that the government cancelled the increase. Had those prices increased, Mohamed would be completely unable to feed his family, and what kind of a man would that make him?  Mohamed is scared, bitter, angry, hungry and tired. He knows one thing for certain: if things get any worse financially, he will lose it. He will take the gun he bought two years ago, and kill the Islamists, the secularists, and all of those people who have the luxury to fight over stupid shit at his and his family’s expense.   

Mohamed will show them the exact amount of consideration and mercy they have showed him, which is none.   

Mohamed will have his Justice, and he is not the only one.

2016

It hasn't been an easy change. We're reminded that revolution isn't done in a day, perhaps not even in a decade.

One of the most extraordinary centers of history and civilization, Egypt is in an uneasy transition.
Parents worry for their children's safety as well as for their future.

In Egypt, more than eighty-five million people live with uncertainty, and many are fearul.  Can we help?  How might we ease some of the suffering so many face?

How big ...

The uneven size of financial systems 

If you compare the size of our nation's financial industry (by total

assets) to the rest of the globe, there's a very clear statement

to make: we're huge.  Perhaps too big?

Too big to fail (TBTF) was the term used when Wall Street finance crashed the world's economy in '07.  We've seen billions paid in fines, but the money went to the government, not to those who suffered loss.  Americans lost on average about $50K per capita.  The finance industry continues to grow, and no one went to jail. 

The industry is huge, but that's not necessarily bad, we're told by economists. And government. And regulators. And the Federal Reserve. They may be right, as the industry size must indeed match the nation's economy and trade. The concerns that have not yet been reasonably addressed, the size of individual banks and companies along with the practices and integrity of the participants.

'Crooked as a dog's hind leg' describes the finance industry in general.  Their influence now exceeds that of most countries, and their bottom line is winning, not serving.  That's troublesome.

Speaking of crooked, take HSBC for an example.  In 2012, the news breaks about one of the world's larger banks.  HSBC was knowingly serving terrorists and criminal cartels and had been for years.  "... the U.S. Justice Department granted a total walk to executives of the British-based bank HSBC for the largest drug-and-terrorism money-laundering case ever. Yes, they issued a fine – $1.9 billion, or about five weeks' profit – but they didn't extract so much as one dollar or one day in jail from any individual, despite a decade of stupefying abuses." (Matt Taibbi, the Rolling Stone, 02/14/13)

"They violated every goddamn law in the book," says Senate investigator Jack Blum. "They took every imaginable form of illegal and illicit business."  So much for soft-pedaling the problem.

So how many died, one might ask.  How many were robbed, how many lost days or years of their lives, how many suffered ... HSBC was knowingly laundering money for murderers and drug industry players.  They knew, and they did it anyway.  Lives were ruined, and people died. And from the U.S. Justice Department, they got a walk.  The fine HSBC paid went to the government, of course, and not a penny to victims or their families.  

Stats: HSBC money laundering and tax evasion

HSBC Helped Terrorists, Iran, Mexican Drug Cartels

Whistleblower believes HSBC still money-laundering

HSBC pays out £28m over money-laundering claims

HSBC scandal: Swiss offices searched

HSBC Judge Approves $1.9B Drug-Money Laundering Accord

HSBC sued by Mexico drug cartel victims

HSBC Appeals Ruling To Unseal Money Laundering Report

Drug smuggling is HSBC's raison d'etre

"Had the U.S. authorities decided to press criminal charges," said Assistant Attorney General Lanny Breuer at a press conference to announce the settlement, "HSBC would almost certainly have lost its banking license in the U.S., the future of the institution would have been under threat and the entire banking system would have been destabilized."

A week later, Assistant Attorney General Breuer announced a similar wrist-slap against the Swiss bank UBS, which had just admitted to a key role in perhaps the biggest antitrust/price-fixing case in history.  The LIBOR scandal was a criminal rate­ rigging play that manipulated hundreds of trillions of dollars for the benefit of the bank. 
A reporter pointed out to Breuer that UBS had been found culpable in 2009 in a major tax-evasion case, and asked a sensible question. "This is a bank that has broken the law before," the reporter said. "So why not be tougher?"

"I don't know what tougher means," answered the assistant attorney general.

One or two such cases are bad enough, but apparently such practices are common (rampant) in the (global) financial industry.  (1) (2)   Prison would be appropriate, but they got a pass.  This is the picture today of our current financial industry, more powerful than nations, and our ineffectual government.  Nuts.

Recent Past Remembered

"This is the island, this is where you will die," they were told as they arrived at the Robben Island prison.  
   It was 1962, South Africa during Apartheid.

Mr. Mandela, now 71, is freed without conditions, ending 27 and a half years of imprisonment.

February 11, 1990 -- Nelson Mandela released.   

In his imprisonment, Nelson Mandela was told, "This is your ending. No one will hear you. No one will care. No one will remember your name," or words to that effect.  No one remembers the fellow who said that, of course, and no one cares to.

Of Nelson Mandela, however ...

"President Nelson Mandela will forever be remembered as someone who gave up so much of his life in the struggle for freedom, so that millions could have a brighter future." UN Security Council

"He was a man of courage, principle and unquestionable integrity, a great human being, someone of whom we can truly say, 'He lived a meaningful life.' I pray for him and offer my heartfelt condolences to you, the members of your family and the entire people of South Africa." Dali Lama

"Nelson Mandela is physically separated from us, but his soul and spirit will never die. He belongs to the whole world because he is an icon of equality, freedom and love, the values we need all the time everywhere. His long, long struggle is a great demonstration of humanity. I have learned so much from Nelson Mandela, and he has been my leader. He is a perpetual inspiration for me and millions of others around the world."  Malala Yousafzai

"Nelson Mandela demonstrated that leadership is not about power, but on the contrary, about honor. That is what we learned from Nelson Mandela during the dark days with him on Robben Island. Today he is seen as an icon in the world, whose teachings, principles and values need to be embraced by all. He was embraced even by even white wardens, his own jailers, because he demonstrated that through the power of dialogue ... people on different sides, former enemies, can come together. That's how we in South Africa were able to resolve our intractable problems created by the racist system of apartheid.  ...  My cell was only about 2-3 meters away from his cell. His cell was small, but it contained a very formidable and larger-than-life figure." Tokyo Sexwale, who was imprisoned with Mandela on Robben Island


From his autobiography which he wrote in prison, "No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite."

It has been 26 years since his release in 1990.  That was a long time ago.  He was in prison longer.

For us all, Nelson Mandela is a world changer.  We'll remember him and tell stories about him and include him in our history books alongside those most extraordinary people who gave of themselves for the sake of others.  And we're inspired to serve as well.  

Tahrir Square, two lessons for today

Tahrir Square, Cairo Egypt, 2011

 There are two messages for us. 

The first: inequality and injustice will provoke forced change. 

The second: change is difficult and it takes years.

"I hope that by the end of this year, we will have an elected government and that universal freedoms are applied and that we put an end to the corruption that has taken over this country."  ~ Mosaab El Shami, 2011

"We are suffering from corruption, oppression, and bad education, and it has to change."  ~ Noha Hamed, 2011

Protesters in Egypt repeatedly spoke the same message.

  
Egypt had struggled for years as a country ruled by elites, with laws structured for the benefit of the few, with wealth pouring into the pockets of the privileged. Hosni Mubarak siphoned off a personal fortune, perhaps enough to make a  couple of million households quite comfortable. As public industry was privatized, Mubarak and his family demanded a stake in virtually every enterprise with estimates of a $70+ billion family fortune.

Things exploded.  Violently.

Welcome to the Arab Spring.  Long awaited, it began in Tunisia in 2010, and we can perhaps expect the next decades to see more by way of forced change.  Much is likely to be quite uncomfortable.

From an Egyptian friend (2016); not every Egyptian wanted the revolution to take place. Mubarak had given them 30 years of relative peace and stability, and most of the bad guys were in jail.  Now, they face increased crime and violence, and they worry about their children's safety.  "Thugs, kidnappers, terrorists, thieves, and rapists are all walking and driving next to us. Ethics and morals have changed according to those in power. We are living in hell...."

The prelude:  Economic inequality (1980-2010) in Egypt was not as severe as in other countries in the region, but it was perceived as significant by the lower income groups; the downturn of '07 hit them hard.  Emergency laws were in place for most of 30 years under Mubarak, and the constitution was suspended.  Police brutality was common as were torture and imprisonment without charges.  Egyptian media was directly controlled by the security apparatus.  Freedom of speech was limited, especially if you wanted to criticize the government. Due process was rare, and an incautious critic could just disappear. Egyptian security forces operated generally outside the law and without public accountability.  Quality education declined.  Egypt, the former breadbasket for the Mediterranean, became the world's largest importer of wheat.  Farming villages and communities declined due primarily to neglect by central government.

--- Five years have passed ---

After Mubarak's ouster, Egypt managed to democratically elect a president, approve a constitution, and lose it all to a military coup shortly thereafter. Since the revolution, poverty has continued to increase, 31% of children now are malnourished, unemployment is high, food shortages plague most of the country. Approximately 40% of women and 50% of children under 5 are anemic from iron deficiency. Revolution is neither quickly nor easily concluded. Difficult tasks remain.

Note the broader issues: unequal representation, class discrimination, corruption, and an unconquerable gap between the privileged and the commoner, all persist.

Examples elsewhere:  The political structure of a country is the primary determinant for the well-being of the citizenry.  On the Korean peninsula, we see a common lineage, geography, history, and culture divided into two countries; one of the richest and one of the poorest countries in the world, one of the most free and one of the most oppressed, differentiated solely by imposed political structure.  The differences in every category are startling.  East and West Germany were similarly divergent.

Today:  The revolution has been effectively crushed, and Egypt is again under the rule of a dictatorial regime, at least for now.

How might such practices over time have contributed to current unrest in the Middle East? How did Mubarak treat the Muslim Brotherhood?  Are there issues we each need to understand?

Our hopes and prayers today are with friends and kindred spirits in Egypt and elsewhere, those who hope for a better world for their children, a place where every individual matters.

Note:  the common voice of the people on Tahrir Square called for political change, for equality and justice.  This is not Egypt's first revolution, but when Egyptians shook off the Ottoman Empire and the British colonialists, government was not reformed.  It has been repeatedly handed off, elites to elites, and unchanged. 


Ref: Why Nations Fail ~Acemoglu & Robinson, 2012


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Your life begins at delivery, little princess

At least that's what Cecile Richards says she believes.  As CEO of Planned Parenthood, she has to be careful what she says.

If life begins at delivery, then of course that raises questions.  It suggests that until they're outside their mom's belly, they're not really alive.  

Let's watch it happen for a little princess -- in the months before delivery, she already has a routine of wake and sleep, of activity and rest.  Movement brings sensations and sometimes a response from mom.  Mom's voice is familiar, being held close is familiar, and there's something new in every moment that passes. Stretch and flex, it's fascinating, moving arms, then legs, and figuring out how it works.  First awarenesses are probably intriguing; of touch and taste, of light and dark, activity and stillness, sounds and silence and calm, and the occasional hiccup.  Then there are voices she hears and maybe mom sings her a song.  

When it comes time to be born, it's got to be a bit difficult.  The tension mom feels has got to be unnerving.  Struggle and then, out!  Whoohoo, first breath!  Okay, that was bizarre, and look at all this light, and it's kind of loud out here, and apparently I need some clothes! 

Shhhhhh.  Her Royal Highness
is sleeping!

Afterwards, when she's wrapped up and warm and in mommy's arms, now she can hear her voice really clearly, and she's comforted.  Too, there's daddy saying comforting things to both of them and others making lots of interesting noises.  As things quiet down, and she's where she belongs, she'll probably take a nap.  That was a lot of work, after all.  

Cecile Richards tells of her own abortion, “It was a decision my husband and I made. It was a personal decision. And we have three children that we adore and that are the center of my life. And we decided that was as big as our family needed to be. That was really the story. It wasn’t anything more dramatic than that." 

Planned Parenthood president Cecile Richards was asked, "When does life start? When does a human being become a human being?"

After equivocating a bit, Richards replied, "Every woman has to make her own decision." 
Pressed again to say when she thinks life begins, Richards said, "I'm a mother of three children. For me, life began when I delivered them. They've probably been the most important thing in my life ever since. But that's my own personal decision, right?"*

That's an interesting question.  Does my preference determine when my child's life begins?

While lawmakers struggle to draw the line, all the science agrees; conception marks the beginning of a distinct and uniquely identifiable life.  Consciousness, awareness, and viability emerge along the way, and full functionality precedes delivery by months.
   

Strong majorities of Americans think that abortion should be illegal after the first three months of pregnancy.  Planned Parenthood is currently leading a campaign to ensure that the United States remains one of seven countries in the world where elective abortions are legal later than five months into pregnancy.

*I don't think CEO Richards was completely truthful.  I don't think she watched her belly in the weeks before delivery and thought it was anything other than her living child.  As wiggling and heartbeat and hiccups and response to her voice were all obvious, I doubt she thought about dumping it in the trash.  I suspect she knew the truth but for political reasons, she said otherwise.