Lies about love

Swept away!  Few things bring sweeter memories than being madly in love.

Beginning somewhere around the 6th grade or so, the turmoil we label 'falling in (and out) of love' occupies our emotional lives and awareness.  It is great fun, mostly, and absolutely full of drama.

If we are careful to be good-hearted about it, it remains fondly with us in our memory for a lifetime, along with perhaps a few regrets about how we might have been a bit gentler along the way, a bit more sensitive to how the other person might have felt.

Early love is inexperienced and understandably overbalanced toward self and feelings.  There's often little substance beyond how wonderfully it makes us feel inside.  Older folks smile and tell us that love isn't a feeling.

Love that's had time to grow up a bit retains the high-impact emotional content, but love itself becomes  broader and deeper.  And it is just too enthralling for words!

So, truth and lies.

1. Love isn't just a feeling.  True, but the feelings that accompany love often speak more eloquently and describe it more fully than mere words.  Feelings do get a lot of attention.
1. a. Love isn't a feeling; it's a decision.  Mostly true also, and not just one.  It's decisions made day after day, decade after decade, in favor of another.  And the feelings seem to thrive and grow more complex and rich on the decisions.
2. Love leads to 'happily ever after'.  Lie.  Life is full of happy and unhappy.  Love can transcend but doesn't preclude the unhappy part.
3. Love is 'the' source of happiness.  Maybe, sort of, almost; but not just 'being in love'.  Loving to great purpose can bring great joy.
4. If someone loves you, they will know and meet all your needs.  Ha!  Lie, nonsense, and BIG mistake, unless your someone is a magician and mind-reader.  And even if they were, being loved covers much, but never 'all your needs'.  So sad.
5. The opposite of love is hate.   Not really.  For us, love and hate are both choices we make, as in:  I wish you well, or I wish you failure, harm, death.  The opposite of love is perhaps just selfish indifference to others.  I choose for my own benefit alone and without considering you at all. 
6. Love leads to joy.  True!  While there's great fun and happiness that accompanies our 'being in love', when love grows up, joy accompanies the result.

Persistent selfishness is a love-killer.  We can stumble over it every day until we're willing to face our self-centeredness head-on.  Some folks never do, unfortunately, and by the time they're old, they're permanent frowners, bitter, and angry at everyone except themselves. Learn and live, don't and die; a downhill slope into loneliness.

Love is larger still than we understand, I suspect.  Grander than romance, deeper than marriage, richer than family, greater than ... than we know.  A loving heart, we're told, is patient and kind, not jealous or boastful or proud or rude, doesn't demand its own way, not irritable (?!), and it keeps no record of being mistreated. Love's great heart isn't pleased by injustice but celebrates when the truth wins out. It perseveres, it holds faith and hope firmly, and endures the impossible.  True.

... and it changes what it touches! True. It can change the world.  Also true.

With all that, it feels like way too much to live up to.  Perhaps we're all somewhere along the road, learning about it.

Waving goodbye yet again;  good folks on
the far side of the world ....

These thoughts were provoked by a conversation with an associate; he was attempting to offer a compliment on some humanitarian work that my wife and I had helped along.  I found myself explaining apologetically that there isn't a philanthropic or altruistic heart behind it.  We've talked about it; we're mostly just doing our best and enjoying the opportunity; it's great to hear from the overseas work and particularly from the families we know.  Maybe it's a start toward the larger, real love we'd like to know.

It really is great fun (a joy), and the pleasure spreads broadly across our lives.
It makes you wonder - who thought of this 'love' thing anyway. And just how big can it get?   :) 

The second great calling to the heart of mankind ...
We are all of one blood, none truly outside the family, and we must each discover for ourselves what that means.  We must decide if we will live practically and graciously, and choose as favorably for each other as we do for ourselves ... to love my neighbor as I love myself.

The first great calling ..., well that's another story.

A moderate Muslim?

The article here is like others, offered by a reasonable person who, like many of us, laments the furor over small things.  Click HERE to be taken to the original article, if you like.

"I believe one needs to have a very high bar when it comes to being offended."  What a wealth of wisdom in that single line.  Being 'slow to anger' delivers us as individuals, as families with children following their parents lead, as communities and nations, from so much that is destructive.

Watching two boys fighting over some toy as they escalate from words to blows, each by his response provoking the other to greater effort, is so visibly paralleled in the hatred and violence we see today.  This person vs. that person, this candidate vs. that candidate, this religion vs. that religion, all deny simple humanity and relegate their opponent to some hated category to be harmed or denigrated.  Or killed.

We owe moderates like the graduate student that wrote the article above a debt of gratitude for their tempering of the world in which we all live.  Would that we all had such clarity.

Further discussion at the Wall Street Journal:

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

A Symposium: What Is Moderate Islam?

The controversy over a proposed mosque in lower Manhattan has spurred a wider debate about the nature of Islam. We asked six leading thinkers - Anwar Ibrahim, Bernard Lewis, Ed Husain, Reuel Marc Gerecht, Tawfik Hamid and Akbar Ahmed - to weigh in.

President Pharaoh

A brief sermon from a recent Virginia church service: 

 Genesis 47:13-27 

Good morning, brothers and sisters; it's always a delight to see the pews crowded on Sunday morning, and so eager to get into God's Word. Turn with me in your Bibles, if you will, to the 47th chapter of Genesis. We'll begin our reading at verse 13, and go through verse 27. Brother Ray, would you stand and read that great passage for us? ... (reading) ... Thank you for that fine reading, Brother Ray.

So we see that economic hard times fell upon Egypt , and the people turned to the government of Pharaoh to deal with this for them. And Pharaoh nationalized the grain harvest, and placed the grain in great storehouses that he had built. So the people brought their money to Pharaoh, like a great tax increase, and gave it all to him willingly in return for grain. And this went on until their money ran out, and they were hungry again.

So when they went to Pharaoh after that, they brought their livestock - their cattle, their horses, their sheep, and their donkey - to barter for grain, and verse 17 says that only took them through the end of that year.

But the famine wasn't over, was it? So the next year, the people came before Pharaoh and admitted they had nothing left, except their land and their own lives. "There is nothing left in the sight of my lord but our bodies and our land. Why should we die before your eyes, both we and our land? Buy us and our land for food, and we with our land will be servants to Pharaoh."

So they surrendered their homes, their land, and their real estate to Pharaoh’s government, and then sold themselves into slavery to him, in return for grain.

What can we learn from this, brothers and sisters? That turning to the government instead of to God to be our provider in hard times only leads to slavery? Yes... That the only reason government wants to be our provider is to also become our master? Yes.

But look how that passage ends, brothers and sisters! Thus Israel settled in the land of Egypt, in the land of Goshen . And they gained possessions in it, and were fruitful and multiplied greatly." God provided for His people, just as He always has! They didn't end up giving all their possessions to government, no, it says they gained possessions!

But I also tell you a great truth today, and an ominous one. We see the same thing happening today - the government today wants to “share the wealth" once again, to take it from us and redistribute it back to us. It wants to take control of healthcare, just as it has taken control of education, and ration it back to us, and when government rations it, then government decides who gets it, and how much, and what kind. And if we go along with it, and do it willingly, then we will wind up no differently than the people of Egypt did four thousand years ago - as slaves to the government, and as slaves to our leaders.

(Here, our thoughtful friend points at the government and the current president. His focus, however is not the specific individual in office but rather the U.S. government and the presidency in general.)

What (the president's) government is doing now is no different from what Pharaoh’s government did then, and it will end the same. And a lot of people like to call (the president)  a "Messiah," don't they? Is he a Messiah? A savior? Didn't the Egyptians say, after Pharaoh made them his slaves, "You have saved our lives; may it please my lord, we will be servants to Pharaoh"? Well, I tell you this - I know the Messiah; the Messiah is a friend of mine; and (THE PRESIDENT) IS NO MESSIAH! No, brothers and sisters, if (the president) is a character from the Bible, then he is Pharaoh.

And that, I'm persuaded, is precisely the point. Our great need as a nation is neither partisan nor party, but a revolution of conscience for us all.

 Bow with me in prayer, if you will...

Lord, You alone are worthy to be served, and we rely on You, and You alone. We confess that the government is not our deliverer, and never rightly will be.

We read in the eighth chapter of 1 Samuel, when Samuel warned the people of what a ruler would do, where it says "And in that day you will cry out because of your king, whom you have chosen for yourselves, but the LORD will not answer you in that day..."

And Lord, we acknowledge that day has come. We cry out to you because of the ruler that we have chosen for ourselves as a nation. Lord, we pray for this nation. We pray for revival, and we pray for deliverance from those who would be our masters. Give us hearts to seek You and hands to serve You, and protect Your people from the atrocities of Pharaoh’s government. In God We Trust...

The Parties Versus the People

How to Turn Republicans and Democrats into Americans

I thought I was perhaps alone in being deeply concerned with the us-vs-us politics of the last couple of decades.  Here's a thoughtful look by a knowledgeable insider.

Book Summary

To banish the negative effects of partisan warfare from our political system, a former congressman, drawing on his first-hand experience with legislative battles, presents a solution-based, practical way to break the stranglehold of the political party system.

Go to

to see the book write-up and a fascinating excerpt.  You can buy a copy there as well, if you like.

"In 1970, 47 percent of the members of the U.S. Senate were regarded as moderate. Today, that figure is 5 percent, and it is even lower in the House of Representatives. The decline of moderate views in Congress suggests a kind of dysfunction: a dramatic gap between the views and attitudes of the American people and the commonalities and differences that exist among our citizens, on the one hand, and what we wind up with in our elected representatives, on the other. Something is going wrong in our politics.

The dysfunction that has almost paralyzed our federal government has its roots not in the people, not in any fundamental flaw in our constitutional processes, but in the political party framework through which our elected officials gain their offices and within which they govern."

The author and former congressman Mickey Edwards came to a strong conclusion in his 16 years in Congress: Political parties are the "cancer at the heart of our democracy."

Edwards is one of the founders of No Labels, an organization devoted to bipartisan (or nonpartisan) political action. He argues for changes in how we elect our representatives -- the role of parties in primaries, redistricting, and campaign financing, he explains, has stifled the ability of voters to find and elect candidates who truly represent not only their interests, but their values. Once in office, he says, congressional members can and should be forced into more productive problem solving by removing or tweaking some of the worst (and most recent) excesses of partisan power.
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The dilemma we face with the upcoming election is that we have no opportunity there to address or resolve our adversarial gridlock.  Congress has settled into a partisan battle, it seems, with little ability to make progress for the good of the nation.

The parties have yet to offer anything we couldn't get at a wrestling match.  We'll vote for our favorite, perhaps, but we won't have solved our greatest challenge.  We don't need a political victory for one side or another, we need to be healed as a nation.

Muslim Peace

Dear friends in Djibouti - Dad and I met on a desert transit.

As-salamu alaikum. 

 Peace be upon you.

It's a greeting among Muslims, and the traditional response is 'and also upon you.'

If you have Muslim friends, they'll laugh and help you pronounce it, so you can use the greeting as well.

So, can we truly be at peace with one another? Is it really that easy to greet and enjoy one another across such a divide as Christian and Muslim? After all, there's a lot of turmoil today on that front, and a lot of folks we know about are working hard to widen the gap. Riot and murder, hatred and violence, and the fury of a burning ideology have plunged nations again to the brink of their own destruction.  Muslim, Jew, and Christian; is there reason?

Christian and Muslim children at play in Ethiopia;
it doesn't even cross their minds ....

The story is told of the prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, and a crabby neighbor lady. It's said that she would dump refuse in his path daily, perhaps to show her disapproval and disrespect. The Prophet never responded in kind but went on his way until the day came that she failed to appear with her garbage. Concerned, the Prophet inquired and found that she was taken ill. When he visited her home and sincerely offered his help, she was undone; humbled and ashamed of her heart and behavior. The book says he was sent as mercy to mankind.  Nice.  I suspect Jesus would have approved.

Muslim and Christian children
and their families share this 
neighborhood.  Nice folks, 
welcomed me graciously.

Muslim friends flagged me down and

insisted I give them a ride home.  They

knew I would be glad to, of course.

Oh, there's reason for the violence, of course. There are reasons aplenty for one group to slander, vilify, and slaughter another over their differences.   I suspect, though, that neither the Prophet, peace be upon him, nor Christ himself would acknowledge such people as followers.

On the desert's edge, Muslim friends wave as we

part for a season.  They'd welcomed me, a Christian,

as a frequent visitor among them and instructed
 me on the issues of survival.

Can two friends from across such a wide chasm sit together and pray, share a meal and laugh a bit, and then part, speaking a blessing of peace to each other?  Of course they can.  It happens all the time.  All the time, all over the world. 

It's just not news.

Go see for yourself. 

 

 

 

Dear Lord and Father of mankind,

Forgive our foolish ways;

Reclothe us in our rightful mind,

In purer lives Thy service find....

... it's the world you love, isn't it.

And not just my little group.

 

God's favorite

It's good to be an American ... but God's favorite?

We've done wonderfully well, we Americans, and we've inspired so many others around the world, but our record is as yet unfinished and far from pristine. Civil rights, equal opportunity, freedom to speak and debate, freedom to work; folks come to live and work in America as perhaps the best place their world has to offer. There are two sides to that idea ...

    We've stated our values, but how did we act them out?  

          Looking back, it perhaps wasn't all that great a beginning.

We hold these truths to be self-evident ...

While we were proclaiming that 'all men are created equal',
we were driving out the native American men,
women, and children of the land.

... that all men are created equal ...

As we gave our word and covenant that each has the right to
life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness,
we had already brought 200,000
African slaves to the colonies.

... that they are endowed by their creator 

       with certain unalienable rights ...

Native American and native African, even indentured Europeans
displaced, killed, enslaved.

... that among these are life, liberty,

         and the pursuit of happiness.

Life? By the time these words were penned, around 80% of the native American population had vanished. Of the estimated twelve million original inhabitants, only a few hundred thousand survived at the end of the nineteenth century.  

Liberty?  An estimated 645,000 Africans were abducted from their homelands, brought to the U.S, and enslaved. By the 1860 census, there were 4 million as their children were born into slavery.

Equal?  At the Paris Peace Conference of 1919, the United States, Britain and Australia rejected Japan's proposal of a "racial equality clause" in the League of Nations covenant.  Arrogance and racial discrimination towards the Japanese had plagued international relations since the forced opening of the country in the 1800s, and continued through the decades up to World War II.   

Through the twentieth century, we backed dictators who took our money and sided with us; no matter that their repressive regimes were cruel, inhumane, or even murderous, and we knew it in bloody detail.

We backed Mubarak in Egypt for decades despite his criminal human rights record. We backed totalitarian regimes in Iraq, Iran, Saudi Arabia, how many?  Noriega,  Batista, ...  millions more died.

Weapons of mass destruction declared in Iraq, troop buildups on the Saudi border ... the reports were fabricated.

... of the people, by the people, for the people....

Government today follows the leadership of the elite

and acts on behalf of monied interests.

We've all recognized and
conceded the point.

Today on Wall Street and on Main Street in our cities, we pepper spray the public dissenters, and when we can, we throw them in jail.

Or we have the FBI break down their door in the middle of the night and haul them away to jail and then before a Seattle Grand Jury... on a warrant for 'black clothing' and possible 'anarchist literature'.

It's been two hundred years since such unreasonable search and seizure

were specifically denied to government agents. 

The intentions of those who founded this country were and still are quite noble.  

The goals they set are achievable;
there is so much yet to do
to make it real for all.

Troublesome times with great possibilities.  Let's be realistic; it is good to be an American.  Less than perfect, if we're objective, but good nonetheless.  Let's remember and affirm our values and press on toward the mark.  

Dear Lord and Father of mankind,

Forgive our foolish ways;

Reclothe us in our rightful mind,

In purer lives Thy service find....