Monday, February 14, 2011

To all the girls ...

To all the girls 
who are in a hurry 
to have a boyfriend or 
get married, a piece of 
biblical advice: "Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz."  

While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, 
don't settle for any of his relatives; 
   Lyin-az,     Cheatin-az, 
    Dumb-az,   Drunk-az, 
     Cheap-az,  Crazy-az,
Lazy-az, and especially his third 
          cousin Beatinyo-az.  
     Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz.

Volumes can and have been written on making this decision wisely. I think the brief instruction above 
summarizes it rather well.  

Today's households in the U.S. with the traditional married mom and dad plus kids, they have dropped below 50% recently. There are a number of reasons we might suggest.  The most compelling among the reasons; marriage isn't all that appealing in our culture any more.  Having had a good look, why would a person want to marry?

Marriage has changed and become progressively less relevant over the last few decades; the word 'marriage' has lost it's earliest meaning. Long before the issues of divorce and remarriage, of same-sex marriage, and of shotgun weddings, it was unique and more simply understood.

Marriage isn't:  the solution to your problems, the way out of a difficult family, the answer to an empty life, or the fulfillment of your dreams and desires.  And it isn't a ceremony; that has but little to do with your success.

Marriage is:  two becoming one, whatever that means.

Love and romance may flood us with feelings, but marriage is much more.
  Marriage is a choice.  Or more accurately, it's many choices, thoughtfully made over years, perhaps.  Learning to share joy, values, priorities, problems and solutions.  Choosing to care about the other.
       The choices mark the path you've chosen, and if you extend that line forward, you'll see your destination.
             In order to be wisely made, the choices cannot rest on feelings alone.

Happy Valentines Day.