Thursday, November 27, 2014

A Woman's Unbiblical Place


You're supposed to stay home and
cook in high-heels, apparently.


  A woman's place is in the home?

That was the narrative offered us when I was a kid in the 50's.  It was the man's job to provide and the woman's job to be a housewife, taking care of  kids and meals and such.  They said things like that in our church.  She's supposed to stay home.
The Victorian Era: 1837 to 1901
Also known as the industrial age, the years saw great
advancements in technology. Queen Victoria
 ruled at the time. It was the age when the
'housewife' was born. It only worked
 if you were wealthy.



As a teen, I sometimes wondered how come my mom and dad both had regular jobs.  Were they doing it wrong?

Years later, my young wife and I grew past the narrow description we'd been offered and enjoyed the opportunities we had for work and education and raising a family much like mom and dad had.

A reality check shows a woman's role through all of history.

In a West African village, everybody pitches in.  Friends interrupted our conversation to go
do their part.  The kids help, too, and they're skilled.  Click on the pic for a detailed look at
families and community in action.  And notice where the babies are.

This is the real world, the way most folks live.


Women have always been workers much like the men beginning in early cultures. Everyone turns out to plant or harvest.  Men often take the more physically demanding tasks, but women don't ever just stay at home ... unless they are wealthy.  Normal families are extended, tasks are shared, and there is a lot of work to do for everyone, all day, every day.  That's always been and is still the case for more than 80% of the world's folks; carrying water, collecting firewood, tending crops, landing the fishing boats and hauling in the nets like in the picture here ...

In some ancient writings, a king tells of the advice his mother gave him, "A good wife is hard to find," his mom says, "and worth far more than diamonds.  Her husband trusts her and has no reason to regret it."

Then he lists some character and behavior traits his mother offered to make her point.

  • She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises.
  • She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day.
  • She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
  • First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
  • She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
  • She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking.
  • She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor.
  • She doesn't worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
  • She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
  • Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers.
  • She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
  • Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
  • When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.
  • She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive.
This doesn't sound anything like 'a woman's place is in the home', does it.  It doesn't sound like long skirts and no sports either.  It doesn't sound like weak or unskilled or uneducated or unproductive.  It sounds like a good business woman well fitted to her culture, a person engaged in meaningful work across a broad spectrum.

The king's mother goes on to say, "Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: 'Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!'”

And she closes with, "Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.  The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives with a whole heart for God.  Give her everything she deserves, and fill her life with praise."


This particular account was written around 2,700 years ago; Proverbs 31.  It wasn't new, just laying out wisdom like parents do for their children.  They were biblically correct in their understanding even before the Bible was written, and the record remains for our instruction.




A great woman  will be fully engaged in family and culture, focused on living life and serving well with a good heart.  At least that's the way it looks to me if you read it in the Bible in the context in which it was written.

Then, of course, what is a man's place?  Same problematic phrasing; there's no place, per se, only purpose.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Nothing says, "I love you" like ...

Nothing says "I love you" like cheap crap made in China by slave labor, sold by a company owned by billionaires benefitting from corporate welfare, paying slave wages to employees ...

Welcome to Walmart,
 
   the stored owned by six mega-billionaires,
     the store that pays the worst wages,
        and costs taxpayers the most.

Wait, wait; stores aren't supposed to cost taxpayers anything!
 

A formal study noted, "...Walmart’s low wages and benefits, which often force workers to rely on various public assistance programs,” have a pricetag that communities pay.  The report concluded that, “... a single Walmart Supercenter cost taxpayers between $904,542 and $1.75 million per year, or between $3,015 and $5,815 on average for each of 300 workers.”  Americans for Tax Fairness made this estimate using data from a 2013 study by Democratic Staff of the U.S. Committee on Education and the Workforce.

To be fair, Walmart isn't the only low-wage payer, and wages aren't the only problem.  Recent decades (3) have seen stagnation in wages and upward-employment opportunities.  Progressively more adults/parents are stuck in low or minimum wage traps without real opportunity for advancement.  Corporate profitability has soared, but the gains have paid owners, not workers.  The economic inequality inherent in today's business practices has ended what we once counted on; economic mobility.  We expected to start at the bottom of the ladder, but we didn't expect to stay there.  More and more workers find themselves in that position.

This year, about 15 percent of Americans (about 47 million people) fall below the poverty threshold.  The numbers are worse for women and minorities, of course.  And children.

Farther below, there are about 1.5 million Americans in 'extreme poverty' or effectively living on nothing at all.  The numbers have perhaps doubled since '96 following welfare reforms and stagnation in the jobs market.  There are perhaps 1 billion people in the world in such circumstances.

Imagine if you will, not a day of distress but a lifetime.  Not enough for heat or food or water, for clothing or transportation or healthcare, not enough to give your own children a hand up.  Persistent poverty, passed on from generation to generation, all in a time when there still plenty for everyone.  There's no actual food shortage; there's still enough for everyone, at least for now.  The difficulties are social and political, not availability.  

Returning to the subject at hand ... nothing says 'I love you' like lending a hand, helping out, making a difference, helping things change for the better.  Happy Thanksgiving.

Friday, November 21, 2014

Eaten by a shark?

"I haven’t been eaten by a shark yet which I am pretty happy about as that seems to happen quite often here. According to all the signs that we have encountered on the way everything in Australia is quite dangerous. We came across signs such as ‘’Rock risk area’’ while climbing in a cave, ‘’Tree climbing risk area’’ in the forests and a whole bunch of ‘’Coast risk area’s’’ in coastal areas on the way as well.  It’s kind of sad to realize that we live in a world where people can’t think for themselves anymore, where these signs are actually necessary because if anything happens to them they blame others… But we had heaps of fun anyway."

Her story ... 
She set out at age 14 to circumnavigate the world ... solo.
 Far from cultural norms one might expect for a teenager making her way into adulthood, she chose her path early on and, with her parents support, pursued it to this first goal and beyond.

Friday, November 14, 2014

Thoughtcrime


In Orwell's '1984', holding an opinion that opposed or doubted the ruling party is a criminal act, a 'thoughtcrime'.  The narrative portrays the fear-filled lives of folks trying to color only inside the lines.  With life or death in the balance, freedom is a distant dream.

Thinking must conform.

Orwell explains how folks in his fictional world learned to cope, to manage their own thoughts.  "Crimestop," he tells us, "is the (learned) faculty of stopping short, as though by instinct, at the threshold of any dangerous thought. It includes the power of not grasping analogies, of failing to perceive logical errors, of misunderstanding the simplest arguments .... Crimestop, in short, means protective stupidity."

It's commonly clothed in Doublespeak/Doublethink (veiling disingenuous thinking from ourselves)
"To know and not to know, to be conscious of complete truthfulness while telling carefully constructed lies, to hold simultaneously two opinions which cancelled out, knowing them to be contradictory and believing in both of them, to use logic against logic, to repudiate morality while laying claim to it...."  ~ Winston Smith

So folks spend their energies, struggling to explain away distinctions between right and wrong, freedom and oppression, choice and constraint.

We'd never personally accept such self-negation in western culture, of course.

Turn a blind eye, keep your distance, don't dig deeper or think it through ....  a Pavlovian response of adapt, adjust, acquiesce, survive, succeed. 

Is there a time and place to take a stand, or should we, as is common, just acquiesce?  On what issues?  Is there a threshold beyond which we must change our response?


Concessions begin small, usually.  We easily adapt to the norms of our own culture.  I recall being asked in another country by a couple of young Christian men what I thought about a husband beating his wife.  They were struggling with the question; one held that she should be beaten routinely to keep her in line while the other insisted that it was only appropriate if she was disrespectful.  These were fine, honorable young men, mind you.

Like cultural norms, the economic circumstances in which we find ourselves are persuasive.  We're inclined (biased) to accept ways that ensure our survival.  Wall Street, for one example, insists that pumping wealth out of the world is acceptable regardless of the harm done, and they continue unchallenged.  Despite clear connection between unethical practices in the financial industry and the death of hundreds of thousands in the developing world, there is little being done to address the cause. Acquiescence is a narrow pathway, and treacherous.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Laura at 14


Laura set off to sail solo around the world when she was 14 years old. Growing up in Holland, she'd had a look at normal life in the modern world and didn't much care for it.
"... they are thinking only about money.  Money is most important thing.  Raising a family, getting a car, getting a house, getting kids and then die.”  ~ Laura Dekker
"I grew up with my dad, building boats," she tells us.  Born on the far side of the world in the middle of an extended sailing trip by her parents, she'd been sailing since the beginning.  Laura sailed by herself from Holland to England when she was 13.  She'd done it without permission and got in trouble for it.  She has a broader view of the world than most, perhaps.

Prior to her circumnavigation attempt, she and her parents spent ten months battling the Dutch Child Protective Services in court.  "They tried to take me away from my mom and dad, and put me in a home for crazy kids."  She won the battle.

"I don't like people to tell me what to do."


“I asked myself, can you do this? And I answered, I’m going to try. So I’m curious if I can, and if I make it, then I know I can. Then I've crossed a boundary. That is my only goal.”  She visited the Canary Islands on her trip, and the Eastern Caribbean before transiting the Panama Canal.  Once in the canal, she realized she was really going to circle the world; no more turning back.

“Nobody said life was easy. But that’s a pretty annoying fact.”

The Galapagos Islands, then west across the Pacific; Fiji, Vanuatu, through the treacherous Torres Strait, and north around Australia to Darwin.
“I had been awake for almost three days by the time I came into Australia and all my sails were just ripped and broken down and my steering wheel had fallen off.  I felt like I was just on the bottom.” 
"I hate sponsors," she explains as she handles everything herself.  No team to meet her, she does repairs, customs paperwork, and her own shopping ....

She met wonderful folks and other travelers along the way, mostly old people.  When you're just fourteen, everybody is old, I suppose.




Repairs, then 48 days at sea across the southern Indian Ocean and around the Cape of Good Hope at the very southern tip of Africa.  She made the passage in difficult weather, the sort of wind and waves that professional seamen try to avoid.  She did well and impressed the maritime community with her skills.

And she learned things about herself along the way.  "I love sailing.  I love the ocean."  "I love being alone.  I feel like freedom is not being attached to anything."  "I just love being out there." "Now I know what sailing around the world means." "It was the end of a dream I'd had as a kid, and it was the beginning of my life as a sailor."

Upon completing her voyage, she was met by crowds and the media, which she would have gladly done without, and by her family.  “The best part was definitely seeing my mom, my sister and my dad all at the same time. It was a perfect welcome.”

And what comes next?  “I feel like New Zealand's going to be a good place for me. And if it turns out not to be, I’ll just travel further.”

Laura chose not to return to the Netherlands where she and her family had been treated so harshly. New Zealand offered a chance at life in a new way.  "I don't really have a home," she says.  "Home to me is Guppy," her 40 ft. sailboat.

Interesting, to say the least.  She challenges virtually all the norms about life that we hold so dear.  There's a movie about her trip called 'Maiden Voyage'.  She took all the video at sea herself.

In 2012, Laura Dekker became the youngest person ever to sail around the world single-handed.  She had sailed 27,000 miles over 519 days.

Not every girl makes headlines like Laura Dekker did, but she provides an extraordinarily motivating illustration of how any girl (or guy) can choose the shape of their own life.

Saturday, November 8, 2014

Lizard's Tail

“Do you know that the lizard breaks off its tail when it is being pursued or feels threatened?” Our teacher quizzed. “HUH??!!” was the general response. Nothing else he said that day sunk in. Can a lizard actually break off its tail? How does it do it? Our young minds questioned. That day, immediately the bell rang for break, we decided to go find out for ourselves if it was true. We went behind our classroom block, where we knew for sure we will find lizards on the walls. We started chasing a particular one. As the chase got intense, the lizard actually did break its tail off; and the broken bit started wriggling so fast, we didn't see where the lizard passed again.


"I only found out recently that Caudal Autotomy is the name for this tendency among lizards to break their tails to distract predators. The other thing I have found out is that most politicians are just like lizards. They won’t sacrifice an arm or a leg. They won’t sacrifice their money or their lives; just their tails - because they can easily grow a new one."
~Nana Kofi Acquah, Ghana

For more about lizards and such ...